So sings Ms. Fantasia.....Baby you don't pay me no mind
You act like you don't love me no more
Maybe you need space or some time
Your attitude is uppredictable and I don't want to make you unhappy
If your not happy then you're free to go on cuz I don't want you stayin around if I make you so
Miserable
[Chorus]
If you don't want me then don't talk to me (if you don't want me then don't talk to me)
Go ahead and free yourself (go ahead and free yourself)
If you don't want me then don't talk to me (if you don't want me then don't talk to me)
Go ahead to someone else (go ahead to someone else)
If you don't want me then don't talk to me (if you don't want me then don't talk to me)
Go ahead and free yourself (go ahead and free yourself)
If you don't want me then don't talk to me (if you don't want me then don't talk to me)
Go ahead to someone else (go ahead to someone else)
[Bridge]
Time again and again I tried
I tried (baby don't you know I tried)
but the love I had inside has
Died
has died (but the love I had inside)
Wont you be a man if it's over and just admit that things aint the same instead of making me
Think its all good
Between us which one's the blame
I took a lot of too much to handle until I can't take this game no more this love thing is full
Of scandal so you welcome to walk
[Chorus]
If you don't want me then don't talk to me (if you don't want me then don't talk to me)
Go ahead and free yourself.
Now I am NOT gonna bash this song... I love this song... in fact I downloaded the song as one of my ringtones... lol
BUT... I have questions concerning this song...
WHY does she give HIM the power of ending a relationship that she knows is failing? She speaks of how they, as a couple, are deteriorating. WHY doesn't SHE walk away?
Is this the way we as women handle relationships that are no good for us? Once things change, do we wait to see if things will change back?
Don't we know that some men will keep us around as "options"... you know... like that red shirt that they haven't worn but won't throw away because they MIGHT wear it one day?
Come on people... talk to me about this.
5 comments:
If we aren't truly fulfilled and happy in a relationship, we are just faking the funk in staying in it. Afraid to let go for whatever reason. When we realize that it's OKAY to be alone for a few minutes, we'll be much better off. Then the other person won't have all of that power over us.
my thoughts exactly Chele... it IS ok to be with YOURSELF for a while.
God made man and said "It's not good that he should be alone".
To me she isnt giving him the opportunity to end it, she trying to teach him something, something we been trying to teach the male species for sometime. If Im not what you want then why are you here. Yes they stay for many reasons. I know a few men who are in unhappy marriages and will cheat their butts off but will tell you in a heartbeat that they are not going to leave their wives.
In this song she is simply explaining how he treats her and how his attitude has changed so why stay involved with her. He probably thinks he isn't doing anything wrong. Most men dont or didnt have good role models. I always say there are all kinds of women out there...ones that dont want anything but sex and money, some that just want a companion with no strings, yadda yadda so go and get those women...leave the ones that want a LT relationship alone if you dont want that. But men want what they want.
Now yes there are women that will give the man the upper hand. They stay in an unhealthy relationship and will allow him to end it when he's ready. Women stay in these relationships for resource sake for the most part. The man pays the bills, she wont be alone...companionship whether good or bad. We have all done it. We know something isnt right in a relationship and that man has lied his head off, did something we know isnt right and still lies and we accept the lie...WHY? Beats me. But all we have to do is ask ourselves this question. We tend to deal with a man again and again. Yes some of us give up sooner than others or can release him sooner than others but nonetheless we ALL do or have done it.
Something about a man or is it something about us being weak? You tell me? Benefit of the doubt nuttin
I totally relate to what each of you have said.... and to answer Kim's last question, well I know me... I love hard. Also I remember what a hellion I have been in my day, and I thank God for placing folks in my life who have given me chance after chance to get it right... they didn't give up on me. I guess I am operating in some sort of reciprocity... giving a person another chance... not the benefit of the doubt. Make sense?
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